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GETTING ALONG WITH MY SIBLINGS - PART 2

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  GROWING THE RELATIONSHIP.   Love: Love covers all errors. Admit that you really do love them despite all the annoying things they do  Learn to Share:   The idea of sharing with your siblings doesn’t come naturally especially if you already share a room with them. But as the saying goes    Sharing is caring Sharing personal belongings could also involve some ground rules.  For example, you could tell your siblings that they're welcome to borrow your items as long as they ask you first. And if they forget (which they do), nicely remind them about the rule.  Advise Them When They Need It:  This is often the very best form of sharing, it includes the sharing of knowledge, wisdom and expertise. Brothers and sisters can be our best collaborators, co-conspirators and role models  Earn Their Trust:   Let them know that they can trust you. Try not to offer advice when it's not wanted, rather let them know that you're here for them, if th...

GETTING ALONG WITH MY SIBLINGS - Part 1

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  R elationship varies in types, there is relationship with friends, family, teachers etc. Relationship with siblings come under family relationships.  To "get along" with someone means that you have a good, peaceful relationship with that person.  You enjoy being around the person and you don't argue or fight very much. This phrasal verb in inseparable.  That means that you can't put anything between the words "get" and "along."  Estrangements between brothers and sisters is a normal common occurrence.  Everyone has a role in people's lives, you have a vital role in your sibling’s life and it is one that no one else can play. It is not easy but it's doable.  Think about it! You can be a great source of good in your sibling’s life.  Every relationship thrives on the symbiotic investments of the parties involved, whether good or bad. Most of us love our families very much, but we don't always get along with them.  Brothers and sisters ...

COPING WITH STRESS AT SCHOOL

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  Active activities come with a lot of things, primarily fatigue and stress.  What matters is our ability to cope with these things and still achieve our desired result.  Stress is a state of mental or emotional strain exacted on a person.  Likely though, you feel at school you face as much pressure as your parents do, though they say you don't have a mortgage to pay or an employer to please.  Have you ever had the feeling that your parents don't understand the level of stress you go through at school?  Some teenagers feel so much stress at school that they feel like screaming. The journey to school in itself can be very stressful, and at school as though planned, the stress doesn’t even let up.  Somehow it feels like there are some invisible forces targeted at stressing your wits out coming from teachers, students, never-ending tests, continuous home works, threats from teachers, peer pressure all these things in a minimum 7 hour of school is enough t...

FRIENDSHIP

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  Making Good Friends  It was ordained from inception that man would want companionship.  A great man of God once said  The company you keep determines what follows you  Friends are companions, they are helpers to our destiny.  A story is said about a man named David who lived during the ancestry of Israel He had a friend named Jonathan whom God used to deliver David from the hands of a wicked king named Saul. Saul's intention was to kill David But Jonathan helped David his friend and because of his help David's life was saved on many occasions when he faced death. I strongly advise you read this story to the end, it's recorded in 1st Samuel  Sadly, in our world today we see the exact opposite. The very people who are supposed to be helpers to achieving your glorious destiny have now become destroyers of your life.  Nothing happens on its own accord.  The reason why many adults are frustrated today is because of bad choices they made while th...

FAMILY DEALINGS 1 - Effective Communication

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  DEALING WITH FAMILY   Talking To My Parents   A time comes in the life of every person when they have that feeling and urge for independence, some people at this point use the phrase "things have changed" ; this is actually true. It's perfectly normal for a person to want to be independent.  Most teenagers want to be independent of their parents’ finances, some of their parents’ rules.  As a young person if you had any troubles your parents were most likely the first people you'd run to.  You had this feeling that you can just tell them anything and everything that happened in school, or at the museum or in the playground, then, you were mostly  "daddy's sweet little girl" or "mom's prince charming".  You relied on them for everything and anything, you cherished their advice and you trusted them with all of your heart.  But it seems like suddenly things changed.  Now you feel like mom and dad can't relate with you anymore.  Well, ...

Choices 2 - Making Them

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  Making Right Choices.  An important aspect of developing and growing as a teen is making appropriate action choices.  When it comes to making a decision, many people would rather not due to the recurring inherent risk when it comes to choosing a path, no matter how grandiose or miniscule.  Right choosing doesn’t only apply when a person is about to get married and has to choose the right partner, but it also applies in our everyday life. If you're going to be successful person in life the choices you make matter a lot.  The oxford dictionary defines  choices as  an act of choosing between two or more possibilities.  So, how do we make good choices: 1. Stop and Think:  There is a part in the human brain (frontal lobe) that affects decision making and this part takes a long time to be fully developed.  It's actually difficult to make right decisions when you're excited, anxious, angry or all emotional. Decisions made with just emotions...